My sweet husband turned 34!!!As I sit and reflect of the past few years with Brandyn I am overwhelmed with my feelings. I am so lucky, thankful, happy.... all emotions :) that we found eachother.
I guess I feel pretty lucky that I found the person that brings out the best I can be. He gives me the confidence to be the woman I want to be.
It has been so interesting to watch how we have both developed and grown since becoming a part of eachothers life. We both went through some pretty tough stuff. When I first started hanging out with Brandyn he was a full time dad AND working full time. He would work all night and then sleep for an hour or so and get his kids ready and off to school. He had Carson at home with him all day because he wasn't in preschool yet so he would catch a couple hours while Cars watched cartoons and then during nap time. I remember thinking what an amazing man and dad he was. I was so impressed at the time he invested in each one of his children. He adjusted to being a "single dad" very well.
After all that we had both had been through it still just seemed easy to trust eachother. I am so thankful that he just jumped, he never seemed to hesitate!
A very common question that people seem to ask is "how do you move on?" Just in general how was the adjustment to marriage and a family. I am so thankful that people have been open enough to ask me questions. It has helped me so much to reflect on our life and possibly help someone. Also, to always think about how lucky we are to have eachother.
I answer this: We put as much of our past behind us as we could. We both could have chosen to never trust another again, but we didn't. We told eachother about our pasts and the betrayal we both had in different ways and that was it. We don't re-visit it. Brandyn had to put all his confidence in me to be a parent to his children. He had to trust my commitment to him, not question whether I was going to be faithful or not.... he just knew! I had to trust that he would always be here. That he wouldn't just decide it was hard and leave. We were both very aware of the trials we both had and so we decided to be a strength in eachother's lives.
I remember the day that Brandyn found out that the kids would be moving to South Jordan. He was absolutly crushed, heartbroken. He was told he was going to go from seeing his kids everyday, to every other weekend. I could not even and still cannot imagine what it felt like. I fell more and more in love with him. It might sound really weird, but it was so neat to see the love he had for his children. To know that he had that much love in his heart to even give.
Brandyn, this is the 3rd birthday I have spent with you. One year older and wiser too!! It's true! I have watched you grow over the past 3 years and I am so proud and honored to stand by your side as Mrs. Deatry. I am so happy you took a chance on me and never even looked back. You jumped in with both feet. You always used to tell your family "I'm going to ride it out, I'm just going to enjoy the ride for as long as it goes on" Be prepared for a long LONG ride!! I love you with my whole heart and I cannot wait for the next few years ;)
Eternally yours -T
